With so many of our students also parents, I thought this article from the New York Times would be interesting. I'd especially like to hear about any of you parents who have an opportunity to try this "method" with your own toddlers. Did it work?
The problem I find with articles like this is that we don't have any scientific proof that this method works better than any other method. Has this been scientifically tested? If so, we're not told.
The method, however, reminds me of another article, also from the New York Times, about how mimicry creates liking between people. Maybe that's what's really going on in this method to tame toddlers!
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I dont have any children, but I like the idea of mimicking than doing "baby talk" with a child. I think that mimicking will show the child how they are acting and to show them that, that is not the way to respond to certain things. Then again baby talk may be a way of getting through to the child to help them understand what you are trying to say. Both methods can be helpful in trying to tell the child exactly what you mean.
I have 2 sons, ages 14 and 15 and one daughter that is 5. My two sons would "throw a tantrum" periodcally when they were toddlers and I would just be patient and wait until they came back to their senses, but my daughter was maybe nine months old when she first actually had her first tantrum. She was crying so hard that she lost her breath and passed out right before me. I had never experienced this with my sons, and took her to her pediatrician that advised me not to worry, dont give in to her every whim or whine or she can learn this type of behavior very early to get what she wants. She has "passed out" twice since the first time, but when she holds her breath and blacks out, her brain kicks in and she starts breathing again. I dont think mimicking helps, but maybe could aggitate the toddler more. Talking with them calmly will help reassure them what type of behavior is accepted.
I do not have children, but i babysit twins. I will have to remember this "trick" next time they throw a tantrum. Does this "trick" extend past the toddler years? These twins are turning 4 soon, so they are more than capable of forming complete sentences. Most of the time, they will calm down. I try and talk to them at eye level and explain to them (in terms they can understand) why i asked them to do something.
I have a daughter and i wished i had read that article then. it is a good idea.
I have a 18 month old and she has been developing an attitude these past few months.. I try to remember that she she young and learning. I like to try different ways in discipling her. I usually speak calmly and tell her that what she is doing isn't a good thing and I direct her into another direction. I will keep this article in mind.
I am preparing for the "taming of the toddler". I just had a son in January. He was just released from the hospital saturday and now I am going through having to get on a feeding schedule and deal with little to no sleep. Soon it will be time to try to tame a toddler. I will be glad to have read this article.
Kellie Alligood
Children are the most amazing! I love their wonderment about everything. I am probably the most lenient and the most positive parent you've ever seen. I am great at handling tantrums.
Valerie Banks
I dont have any children but that seems to be a great idea lol. I will remember that when i have my seven kids. twin girls essence and alonnah and five boys xavier daniel jonathan james jr lol already named them esther Wilson
I have 3 biologiacal children & 2 step children. The oldest being almost 9 and the baby is 13 months. I have dealt with lots of tantrums. I think this way might actually work. I will give it a try next time I face a tantrum. Which will probally be tomorrow. Hopefully it will help calm the baby down. I do believe it when the say todllers are not homo sapiens the are neadraths. That i think is sooo true.
"Tina Dunn"
Taming toddlers can sometimes be a difficult situation but we as parents and caregivers are the ones in control and can actually help the situation if approached in a positive way. I find that getting down to the child's level and aiding in activities that they enjoy helps to bring their attention elsewhere and make things a little more calm. This is however their way of getting ones attention and the only way they know how to do it.
I have found with raising my children that instead of getting upset with the tantrum, getting their attention in a positive way is best and helps the situation instead of making it worse.
I have a child that has just recently been diagnosed with ADHD and he throw tantrums occassionally. Before he was diagnosed I use to get upset with him, put him in time out and take away privileges. I now understand why this was not working. He had an issue that I was unaware of. Now, I talk to him calmly and in a sweet voice even if he is very upset. It has helped me get him calm to the point where we can talk about what is wrong and we can both work together to make him feel better. This has turned out to be more effective and has lessened the stress level for us both.
Tina Dunn
PSY 241 BCCC "Spring 2008"
I do not have any kids but I know a thing or two about taming toddlers. As it say in the bible spare the rod spoil the child so in my opinion beat that child senseless, and continue to show love while doing so.
I found it very interesting about how to control the tantrums. First of all i loved how he described toddlers as a ball of emotions and not of logical thinking. Also, i think that repeating yourself is a good solution. Letting the child know that you understand and for them to hear how they are acting is the way to handle these situations.
Susan Braddy(WHS)
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